C o n f u s i n g (Part 2)

I can't just do the Sudnow Method alone, because I'd like to play by ear. And because the dominant voicings are too much of a pain for me to deal with. And because if I just learn a song, and it sounds beautiful, I forget it quickly. But I love it's sounds. Moody stuff offers me the advantage of a play by ear system that makes sense to me. But the issue for me regarding just using this method is what to do when dissonance isn't desirable. Still trying to make sense of integrating all. Not as easy as it may sound "on paper."